Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men by Martin Ucik

Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men
by Martin Ucik

Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men integrates the socioeconomic, biological, psychological, developmental and spiritual dimensions of love relationships into a comprehensive map that allows men to meet women with integrity, strength, understanding, and kindness at their level of consciousness. In Part I of the manual, the reader learns how to differentiate between the biological sex, learned social gender roles, and feminine/masculine polarities of males and females. This allows him to understand her primary sexual fantasy to attract a successful male protector and provider with status and wealth, her primary emotional reaction of fear, her social expectations, and how to balance and harmonize the opposing poles of agency, communion, ascending (Eros), and descending (Agape) that generate sexual attraction and synergy. Next, the manual provides information about multiple intelligences, competencies, values, interests, passions, and emotional needs that must be compatible between couples for their relationships to thrive. The following chapter covers developmental levels of consciousness (from archaic to transpersonal), spirituality (from gross to non-dual), sexuality (from repressed to transcendent), and his anima and her animus complex. The understanding of her levels of development in these four crucial domains is paramount for his ability to meet her as an opposite and equal partner.

"Integral Relationships" is an astonishingly complete manual for men based on virtually all the elements of the Integral model, in itself a remarkable feat. And the advice is truly sound. A great book!

--Ken Wilber, The Integral Vision

Finally, an integral look at relationships written for men and backed up with a wealth of scientific information! It is both fascinating and refreshing. If you are a man interested in relationships with women get this book and pay attention to what it has to say.

--Professor Allan Combs, author of The Radiance of Being, Consciousness Explained Better.

Martin Ucik (1957 - ) was born in West-Germany, grew up in a happy family, studied Electrical Engineering, and founded a successful international music-soft and hardware publishing company in 1982. He came to the US in 1995 with his wife and children to serve as President of HOHNER MIDIA. Eckhart Tolle trained him as a spiritual group facilitator in 2003. Heartfelt conversations in his Power of Now group and the end of his 14 year marriage led him to a deeper interest in male-female relationship dynamics. To better understand why there are so many unhappy singles and couples in the US and why finding a new partner was so difficult, he founded singles2couples.org, an Association for Healthy Relationships. In 2006 he became an avid student of Ken Wilber's integral philosophy which became the foundation to answering his burning questions about the myriad of conflicts which arise in love relationships, and why so many women have given up on men altogether. Not finding any books that took an integral approach to dating and the co-creation of healthy love relationships, he began to write "Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men", which was published in July 2010. Besides writing and studying relationships from an integral perspective, his interests include spending time with his children, reading, playing piano/keyboards, hiking, jogging, cooking vegetarian food, philosophical groups, and meditating. He lives in Santa Rosa, CA and works as General Manager for the Hollywood, CA based Pro Audio distribution firm plus24.